J’iam’s #1 most serious rule! (and it’s not what you’d think!)
My most serious rule in life is that I should laugh for a minimum of 3 hours per day! I have lived by that rule since 1978. And it has stood me in good stead too. For example when I lived in Woodville (in the country at an electrical sub-station) there was a knock on my door one day. When I ansered it there stood the husband of a lady I used to talk to over the fence as she ran past on her daily jog. I said “Hello, how can I help you?” and he said, “Sstep outside please, I’m going to thump you!” Goodness I thought, what’s gotten under this man’s bonnet. So I said to him, “If you are going to thump me, I want to know the reason why!”
“You know why!” he said.
“No, I don’t know, I have no idea at all!” I replied
“You’ve been having it off with my wife!” he said. At which point I laughed out loud, a good hearty belly laugh!
He stood there not knowing what to do! He had prepared the scene in his mind what he was going to do. If he does this then I’ll do that, or if he does that then I’ll do this. But the one thing he hadn’t prepared for was for me to laugh at the idea.
“I’m sorry,” I said, “but we only talk over the fence. Someone has been backbiting to you haven’t they?” And that was the real reason he was there on the doorstep. Neighbours had been whispering in his ear that she and I were having sex because the had a reason to like me (but not sexually – I’ll tell you why in a minute)
I said to the husband, “Paul, people have been backbiting to you (backbiting is vicious gossip and is forebidden by God in this new age). Go and ask her why she is friendly with me, I think you’ll be surprised! Would you like to come in for a cup of tea?”
“Um, no thanks” he said rather embassed by the scene that had taken place. I felt sorry for him and said, “well, the offer is always open!” and he left.
The reason why the lady (Simone, names are changed to protect the innocent) was very friendly with me (I was a solo father then) was because she had a problem at the time. One day she was jogging past as i was in the garden and she said, “Well I won’t be chatting to you any more soon!”
“Why is that?” I asked.
“Because the docters are going to be putting me in a wheel chair!”
“Why would they do that?” My jaw dropping as I asked!
“Because I have artheritis in my knees, hands and other joints.” she replied sadly.
Now a few months before, Green lipped mussell had been discovered to be effective with arthuritis and I had been reading about the latest “miracle cure” in books and magazines, so I asked her, Have you heard about green lipped mussells? They are supposed to be marvellous for arthuritis!”
“No,” she replied, “never heard of them.” So I went on to explain they were the latest thing on the market for her problem. Then she asked me, “How much are they?” and I replied, ” about a dollar per tablet”
“Oh” she said, “that’s very dear (expensive)”- this was back in 1979 and it was expensive.And I said, “Well think about it. They want to put you into a wheelchair, which means they have given up on curing you. What if they work? How much will that be worth to you? Not living your life in a wheel chair!”
She thought about that and said her thanks and goodbyes and i didn’t see her for about three weeks, until one day she came running up to my fance and said. ” I want to thank you! Those pills are marvellous and they have cured my artheritis completely! I can now Run again (not just jog/walk like she had been doing!) ”
I was so happy for her! What a difference it had made in her life – she was beaming with true (inner, spiritua) happiness! And because of that the small minded neighbours had put one and one and come up with 69! And then had run to her husband with tales/rumours/gossip/backbiting of infidelity! And he had believed them and had determined to come down and thump me up!
So there is the power of laughter. Laughter, like music, “has charms to sooth a savage breast, to soften rocks, or bend a knotted oak.” (William Congreve). This is because Laughter and Music are both forms of spiritual relaxation! But laughter is the more powerful of the two! Not many people know this though, and so the world continues on it’s weary, depressing and depressed way!
There is a saying about laughter, “Laugh, and the world laughs with you; Weep, and you weep alone” (Ella Wheeler Wilcox.) Laughter eminates, like light. A candle can eminate light to every corner of a darkened room, but there is nothing that can eminate misery, like a dark light you can strike that spreads darkness to every corner of the roon and makes it black. Evil does not have the power of emination at all. Rather it must sneakily move around the room closing all the curtains, and plugging up the gaps toblock out the light. Evil must be contained within a box. Open up the box and it is no longer dark inside!
Even if you live in darkness the sun always shines. Even in the most vicious storm the sun is still shining within six miles of you – straight up above the clouds. Always remember that the sun is always shining. Even at night it still shines on the other side of the world and we are moving towards the light at 1,000 miles per hour! And the darkest portion of the night is always before dawn!
It reminds me of an incident i had in Palmerston North in 1986. I was walking down the street in a foul mood and I noticed that no one was smiling at me, so i thought, “Why is no one smiling at me?” And a small voice whispered in my ear, “try smiling at someone yourself!” So I saw an old lady approaching and forced a cheesy grin onto my face! Fortunatly for me she must have been nearly blind and couldn’t see the forcedness of the smile, but saw it as a genuine smile and beamed a genuine heart-felt smile back at me! And that changed my mood from foul to beaming and I was able to cast out genuine smiles to every person I met. And they all cast genuine smiles back at me, so in the space of 100 feet my world changed from a dark place to a bright place! Lol!
So don’t think of laughter as a fickle thing. Think of it as a powerful force of for change – firstly within ourselves and secondly in the world. For laughter is a manifesting, emminating force that changes the world for the better. Try laughing three hours a day, make a commitment to it for one month and see how your world changes for the better. As I said, the first three minutes are the hardest. And you can ask for laughter at any time under the laws of providence, because laughter is a neccessity to Man, not a luxury!
Go forth and Laugh!